June 12, 2009

How to be Polite and Respectful in Public

This post most certainly IS NOT about me or my mother. My husband and I were on vacation this last week and just returned late last night after 2 cancelled flights and getting transferred to another airline to get home. This was due to weather in our connecting city which messed up the day for a lot of travellers including us.

We had booked the first flight out at 6:00 am pst and were planning on being home by 2:00 pm cst. We didn't land at our home airport until 11:30 pm. Needless to say it was a long day for us and many other travellers. Still that's not an excuse to be rude and disrespectful in public. Basic manners should be a given when everyone is just trying to get to their final destination.

We were all loaded on our last flight home and wouldn't you know our seats were right next to some loud and obnoxious brats, when we see two other people take their seats who had been loud and obnoxiously carrying on in the waiting area in the terminal. To be fair it was really 1 of the 2 of them, but the 2nd one didn't seem to have a problem with this dramatic display for attention. So now we have 5 people all fighting for attention on a plane full of people that just wanted to get to their final destination.

Some how they started antagonizing each other and being rude to each other so one of them asked the flight attendant about changing seats but in a loud and belligerent fashion obviously taking a shot at the brats behind him. Which one of them responded to obnoxiously. However I must say the first person had gone up and down the aisles 2 or 3 times before finally taking a seat so I don't know that there weren't other exchanges between him and the flight attendants before this scene went down.

The plane had backed out of the gate and stopped for several minutes when the captain comes on and says that they have to pull back to the gate to take care of an administrative issue. A few minutes later someone from security comes on to ask the 2 people in front of the 3 obnoxious brats to please exit the plane with him as the captain has requested they be removed from the plane. There was an immediate feel of fear that came over the 3 as they were apart of the final display that a majority of the people assumed was the only reason for the 2 being asked to exit. These two immediately went into defensive "what have we done wrong" mode, refusing to leave.

Let me just say it doesn't matter at this point what anyone has done, if the captain has requested you gone, for whatever reason, you aren't going on that plane. In reality all 5 of them should have been kicked off, but I sense the one had done some other things before that scene to make one or two of the flight attendants uncomfortable. I'll back them up, I was irritated and a bit uncomfortable when they showed up right in front of those 3 brats who were already having a loud, obnoxious conversation about silliness that no one wanted to hear. Why can't people get on a plane, sit down, and shut up???? My husband and I barely talk to each other on a plane, and when we do, we keep the noise down so no one can hear our conversation. At least can the noise level be piped down to a reasonable level? Are my expectations of others again a little too high?

My other problem was the people around that decided to speak up for or against these two to plead their case or just plead for them to just get off while the gate security officials are trying to talk them off the plane before the police come and take them by force. Shut up you!!! # 1 you don't know what all was behind this removal! Don't assume you know the whole story! #2 you aren't helping this scene end any sooner by distracting security or the removees. I don't care if you think it's unreasonable, and I don't care that you just want them to go peacefully. KEEP IT TO YOURSELF!!! The captain is the only judge and jury on the plane, he's not going to change his mind because you think he should. Your opinion doesn't count so get over yourself!

They finally left the plane, but not before the 3 obnoxious brats found themselves sticking up for them when prodded by the removees. At this point I thought they felt bad about the part they played in the disturbance and were just trying to pacify the situation. But after we landed they were back to talking smack and making jokes about how they got kicked off. Was I too much of a wuss for not telling them to lock it up because they should have been kicked off too? I don't know. We touched down just after 11:30 pm and I just wanted to get off the plane and get home. I do wish I would have had the guts to tell them to grow up and get some manners, but the part of me that didn't want to cause a scene is much more dominant, because people like that generally don't have respect or consideration for anyone around them. Why didn't their (all 5 maybe 4) mothers and fathers teach them to be respectful, polite, and considerate to others in public or private? And as the case may be, why didn't they teach them to pick their friends wisely as they will be judged by the company they keep? Why is getting attention, positive or negative, more important to some people? How awkward to go though life without manners or common courtesy.

Kudos to the pilot and crew though, we were already way late getting home. Another half hour or so wasn't a big deal to us.


cristal said...

Were these college age guys?

How annoying. I would have wanted to tell them to grow up too. And my only activities on a plane are reading and sleeping. Very little talking. My last flight from GA to Dallas was interesting. One of the last men to board literally dropped/fainted 2 rows in front of me while walking down the aisle. I think he had a heart attack. Paramedics were called and they intibated him and were doing chest compressions. It was so sad and I really don't think he made it....from what I could see out my window once they got him outside. It put us an hour behind but we all understood and we all told our flight attendants what a good job they did.

n a n d a said...

annoying. attention-seekers. happens all the time, everywhere.
it's shocking me that some ppl who look well educated suddenly act such a spoiled rock stars once they open their mouth.
seems like they think being rude and got all eyes on them is cool.
i really don't get it nor tolerate it.

Anonymous said...

People have no respect for others anymore and it worsens with each generation. It's amazing to see the lack of manners in children today. A shame what our society has become.

ChristianeMcA said...

I would have been so annoyed. There is no respect given to anyone anymore. "It's all about me!" Is the current attitude I see everyday. A polite person is now the acception to the rule.

Amber Sunshine said...

the 2 that got kicked off where probably 30s...the 3 that should have were probably college age though no evidence to indicate they were or were not in college...

funny you should say Rock star nanda...the lady in the 2 that got kicked off said she was going to Austin to play a show that night and that 2000 people were waiting for her...they said there'd probably be a riot if she didn't show....we heard of no riots that happened downtown overnight :)

carrie said...

interesting story, well-written. thanks for sharing this little slice-of-life

lina said...

People like that always bug me too, but I guess I have always been too much a wimp to tell them off.