September 20, 2009

High School Reunions are as Awkward as High School Was

I realize that high school reunions are supposed to be about reminiscing about the good ol' days, but the reality is that if your class was awkward in high school, the reunion isn't likely to be any different. And I'll say it; I don't look at high school as the good ol' days since most of it sucked buckets for me. So why in the hell would I want to go back?

My class seemed very clicky. It was a small class and we all knew and talked to each other, but we didn't all hang out together in our free time. The reality is that if we'd gone to a huge public school, most of our paths wouldn't have crossed including most of the friends we actually did hang out with. But here's the thing we have all hopefully changed since then and that includes people we used to hang out with. We've all moved on. Reunions are about going back. Back to a place I didn't much care for when I was there but made tolerable by the friends I did have.

A few years ago, I went to my 10 year reunion. I had avoided going back in previous years but decided to go since a friend I'm still in contact with was going. And another friend was going to show and I hoped a few more of my friends would show. Also I really had a morbid curiosity about what some of my former classmates were up to, though I myself was not where I had hoped to be in my career 10 years out from high school. I had recently acquired a stable job that I wasn't completely ashamed of. But I was afraid to go because I figured everyone else would have these crazy awesome careers to brag about.

The reality was that most of the people that showed up had between 1 and 3 kids already. I was shocked because I wasn't even close to thinking I was mature enough to have a kid. (still not sure that I am) Much more 2 or 3 toddlers that were running around. This was a bit awkward because I didn't know what to say to them anymore. I couldn't even relate to wanting kids yet. On the bright side, I didn't see the fabulous high dollar careers that I expected. We were all pretty much paying our dues as far as I could tell. Most of us were well on our way to middle class life, meeting the hopes and dreams of our parents.

Only about half of us, if that many showed up. People that ignored each other in high school continued to ignore each other. I will admit I didn't make an effort to talk to everyone either. I just didn't see the point. Plus hearing about the divorces made the following sympathy awkward.
Now we're all ignoring each other on Facebook. Go figure. We really have nothing to say to each other except to the click or group of friends we belonged to then. It was such an awkward experience, that it's awkward to write about and make it sound amusing. It just sounds sad I think.

7 comments:

kastz said...

like the blog hows it goin?

MeanDonnaJean said...

I went to my 25th reunion some years back...not that I was all that interested in school from the get-go nor was I even interested in reminiscin' about those crazy 70's, but rather I went just to see how everyone else looked now in their mid-forties. I had myself a grand ol' time checkin' out all the fat bald grayhaired wrinkled "old folk"....and wonderin' what the hell happened to 'em all!! LOL

Amber Sunshine said...

I have a feeling that 20 years or so gets better...my husband's 15th was way better...but then from what he tells me, his class wasn't as awkward with each other in high school as mine was. We'll see...i'm sure i'll want to go to at least 20 out of curiousity.

Jennifer Becker Landsberger said...

I'm still debating whether to go to mine...really don't think so. Small school also.
And a lot of cliques, just like at your school. Good blog! (I'm with you on the kids thing!)

Adam Lee said...

So far no high school reunions for me, as it is I haven't graduated from college yet. When they do have one I'm not sure I will even go.

Amber Sunshine said...

I recommend waiting until at least 15 or 20 years out...even then i'm not convinced mine would be any better...if nothing else out of morbid curiousity...

Thanks for stopping by!

Rhi said...

That sounds about right. I'd never go to my school reunion. I didn't like half the people I went to school with and still don't having 'reconnected' with them on facebook.